This is an interesting article by Wendy Shalit. I found it in a book called Secret Keeper by Dannah Gresh.
As long as you seem to be "hooking up" on a regular basis, no one has a thing to say to you, but if you are alone, people become very concerned and start to give you lots of advice. I listened carefully to all of it when I was alone, but had to conclude-without wanting to seem ungrateful- that the advice young women were getting was just appalling. I was stunned at the way my friends reassured me. You will have many men in your life, they predicted. Your body's not so bad, your face not so ugly. You'll see, you'll see. You'll do very well on the market. Trust us. Just maybe "put on a shorter skirt or something" stop "hiding yourself", stop "taking things so seriously". And "you'll see how the men will..."
I tuned out at this, my mind whirring over this You will have many men business. Was that a compliment, I wondered, or a life sentence? It's a life sentence if you're like me, one who hopes for-dare one even say it-not many men, but just one. You will have many men. Well, thanks for the generous offer, but am I allowed to decline?
